There are moments in life when something inside us quietly stops cooperating. A relationship, a role, a rhythm, a way of being that once felt right suddenly doesn’t fit anymore – like trying to slip back into a favourite jacket only to discover that, somewhere along the way, you outgrew it. The zipper no longer […]
Briefly, this reflection is about a question – How will you go about finding that thing the nature of which is totally unknown to you? And, to elaborate… Lately, I’ve been haunted by a question. Not in a spooky, ghost-under-the-bed kind of way, but more like the quiet murmur of something ancient and wise that […]
(and Why I Sometimes Can’t Shut Up About It) Let me just say it plainly: I am in a long-term, wildly fulfilling, occasionally exasperating, and at times, frustrating relationship with the Enneagram. Now, after years of deep and focused learning, and becoming a Certified Enneagram Teacher, we are going stronger than ever. However, it hasn’t […]
I have often wished that transitions came with a map. A well-marked trail, a clear set of instructions, perhaps a kindly guide with a lantern who knows the way and will guide me with ease and confidence from here to there. Instead, they arrive like unexpected houseguests—disruptive, inconvenient, and completely uninterested in whether I feel […]
There is a flow to wake-up calls. A pattern that has a way of repeating itself, that – overtime – has become a familiar way of delivering its wisdom exactly at the timing I apparently needed. These wake-up calls don’t ask me whether I am ready, nor do they check my calendar to make sure […]
There are two circles. One of about 20 men, who came to participate in this weekend. We call them “initiates.” The other circle is of about 40, of staff, leaders and co-leaders, and men of service (who spend the whole weekend in the kitchen, preparing food and nourishing everybody the whole time). These have participated […]
In advance of a Right Livelihood Quest at Esalen (Big Sur, California) in September 2014, we ran a webinar, presenting some ideas, concepts, and key principles that are the foundation of the Right Livelihood Quest process. It is about an hour long, and you can watch it here:
Where did the time go? I wrote the last Reflection at the end of January (here) and, despite my intention to write one or two of them a month, we are now nearing the end of March. We humans are, apparently, much better with our intentions than with our implementations of those. Coming back from […]
Fog. There was fog at the airport when I was leaving Vancouver. There was heavy fog, early in the morning, when I arrived to Delhi and was driving to the guest house where I am staying for the next two weeks, while I teach at the School for Inspired Leadership (SOIL). The next morning, as […]









